How to keep a strong relationship. We all create our future in an imaginary crystal ball, surrounded with peaceful white snow where you dance with your partner and do not want the wall of this ball to break, we fight with the outsiders to protect our crystal, right?
Just for once, consider that the prince and the princess inside the crystal are the reason for the damage done to the walls.
Sounds scary.
I know, many of you would have dealt with this situation and probably confronted with it by moving into a new imaginary crystal.
What if I tell you that the wall of the crystal is not built of some fragile material but of a thing called “Care.”
Yes, this word has many synonyms that helps you to keep a “Strong Relationship.”
1. Time.
You chose your partner because you enjoyed their company in first place and now it’s the time that they need. Probably, time is the best gift for your partner. No watches, no teddy bears nothing.
Summing up, “Don’t take them as granted.”
2. Lower the expectations and trust blindly.
Don’t try to bring out a Shahrukh Khan or Kajol from your partner. Stop believing what’s been shown in those hypothetical romantic movies. Your partner is a common person who fights hard to survive and also tries to make you happy. So lower the level of expectations.
When there are high expectations in a relationship and obviously, not fulfilled, creates disruptions. High expectations works as a catalyst for a falling relationship.
Trust your partner blindly in whatsoever situations occur, be the support because there are already many pain in the asses in their life, don’t be one.
3. Surprises.
“Surprise!!!!” everyone reading this loves to hear this word once in a while and when it comes from the person whom you love and care is simply awesome. Surprise you partner because as said by those romance novel writers, “Surprising creates excitement and excitement is another word of being happy and happiness coming because of our partner is nothing but love.”
Surprise your partner in the smallest way possible, which can create the biggest effect possible.
Get them a souvenir.
4. Movies, Rides & Dinner.
Movie, how beautiful it feels grabbing your partners hand while watching a 9.2 star rated movie. (P.S:- Don’t take romance movies seriously, I repeat.)
Rides, how exciting it is to cuddle while riding and behaving abnormal with your partner, crazy.Dinner, how happy you will be when your boyfriend pulls out a chair for you when you go on a dinner with him or how happy you will feel when your girlfriend teaches you how to behave properly on the table. (P.S:-Don’t learn table manners from boys.)
Now combine these 3 things together on a single day, Ride with your partner to a movie theater and understand the craziness they hold, watch a movie and understand the level of sensitiveness of your partner and then get back to your vehicle and head for the dinner and understand how caring your partner is. Just do it, once a while.
5. Cook together.
It is probably the sweetest thing to do with your partner. Chop the onions together, those tears would bring happiness in your relation. Those spices you put in while cooking will also bring a spicy content in your life. Let your partner know how you cook and what is your type of taste. It helps.
6. Give pet names.
‘Baby.’ ‘Janu.’ ‘Shona.’ You know, how old or clumsy it may sound, but just say it. Have a pet name for your partner, this thing distinguishes you from their other friends. Give reasons to let know everyone that you are the special one.
7. Establish goals together.
Plan your things together, make your partners goals as yours. Cheer up when he/she is working on their goals.
They need you to move ahead, they need you to cherish the moments while they move ahead.
Be together.
8. When it gets boring.
Don’t freak out when you feel yawn-y and take it from the basics. Step out of your comfort zone and begin again.
This a damage control but don’t worry, every relationship has its ups and downs this is yours, begin from point 1 and start over.
It’s never too late for love.